I must admit I’m a little nervous to post this because obviously everyone is different, but if it helps at least one person out then I’m happy! Also, before I start I would like to say that I am no relationship expert, but I have had a few.. Different relationships to say the least! So I thought I would write a post about all the things I know now that I wish I knew at the time.
First off I am going to start with compatibility because this was the hurdle I fell over too many times! Similarities and differences can make or break a relationship! When you’re willing to try something your partner loves doing as a hobby or you share a love for a band, a film and so on.. You instantly click and it gives you something you can talk about for hours on end! If you are two completely different people and your partner hates a lot of the things you love, then it may not work no matter how much you try. From the beginning, Steve and I have always loved watching a film or two with a tub of Pringles and a bag of Maltesers. It’s not the fact that we got to snuggle up on the sofa (although it’s my favourite way to spend my evenings), it’s because we both have similar tastes in films and find the same things amusing.. Even in horror films, I know.. We’re twisted!
Secondly, arguments.. They happen no matter how hard you try to avoid them! It’s not nice at the time, but it is healthy to have the odd argument because it proves that you’re both fighting for the relationship even though the easier option would be to just walk away however if you’re the only one fighting then it’s already game over!
Now, this is one I have recently gone through, ‘the 3-year hump‘. After you have been with the same person for 3 years, the relationship is at a point where there isn’t anything new and exciting to find out about your partner or they have transformed into a completely different person over the years and that’s where a few relationships fall apart! Mine included, but we decided to try things again and the whole relationship felt refreshed! So if your relationship breaks down my advice is not to shut them out and hit the delete button.. Give them the space they need, keep in contact and after some time apart you might
you’ve both made a horrible mistake, but the same with the arguments, if you’re the only one that wants to get back together then save the heartache and move on. realise
The last thing I am going to talk about is dealing with a break-up.. I was rarely the one to end a relationship because I hate upsetting people so I have a fair bit of experience with being the one that gets ‘ditched’!
I was perfectly fine with but the past 2 relationships were the hardest to try and let go, I have an extremely unhealthy way of coping with things that turn my life upside down. I shut myself away, refuse to eat, barely drink, which is why I lost a little under a stone within a week when Steve and I broke up. I was so used to having the same routine near enough every day for the past 3 years that once Steve was gone, I was completely lost, my whole life was shattered in a matter of minutes. Luckily we still kept in contact whilst we were apart and we sorted everything out otherwise I probably wouldn’t be writing this post.. However, the best bit of advice I would give is even though a relationship ends, it’s not the end of the world and I know I am going to seem like the biggest hypocrite that ever walked this earth but things will get better! It could take a week, a month, even a year.. There is always something bigger and better right around the corner, you just have to be brave enough to step a little closer. Some